Dear Daddy: What do you mean by control points and erogenous zones?

Daddy I saw what you said about the pic of the boy standing, of his 12 erogenous zones and 3 control points -- I am just wondering if you could elaborate, what are those erogenous zones and control points that you see on the boy?

I think I’ve written about several things like this in the past, touching on the ‘micro-tells’ a body betrays itself with. If I recall the photograph and post you mean, he was against a wall with his legs spread slightly, as if waiting. Since I can’t locate that post for direct reference, I will use this one as a stand in. Same basic idea, just the nuances are different based on boy/situation.

Part one: Erogenous Zones.

Arousal causes changes in ‘texture’ of skin, as well as it’s color. Gooseflesh, taught or tight skin, blush or paleness, all these tell me where blood is moving based on his level of arousal. To the common eye a pink cheek is a sign of being sensually stimulated for some boys, but to me i look elsewhere to see where his body is asking for touch. The most sensitive are rarely the brightest places or the most covered in excited bumps; the opposite is often true.

The places where the skin is thin, or pale or tight, is where blood is moving away from and that is where you will find the greatest responses. If my goal (and it usually is) is to engage the entire body in what I’m doing it becomes a game of cat and mouse, redirecting the blood in his body with touch and sensation in other areas. It’s entirely possible to ‘drain the blush’ from a boy by stimulating his body elsewhere. It will come back but there will be a color change when it’s done right just as you can watch that same blush rise up his torso as he comes close to reaching a mechanical climax.
In this example I can see a few places (not the best lighting for a ‘spot’ check, but it will do) that I can point out to illustrate what I’m talking about as well as to make it clear that there is a difference between ‘in the area’ and ‘on the spot’ when you’re analyzing a persons sensual centers.

First up is the most obvious to me is the object of focus for this photo: his butt. This tells me he’s proud of it, finds it attractive or at least knows that others do. This means its a place he accepts attention easily. I call things like this the ‘handshake’ body part. When ‘waking a boy’ up, spots like this will get the least amount of jumping in response to touch and various other stimulation methods.
The whole area is a ‘happy’ place, comfortable to him to receive appreciation but, and perhaps even unbeknownst to him, it’s not his bottom that is the key location: its the swooping crest from inner thigh that runs from directly underneath his pelvis to the outer edge of the crease beneath his cheek as he stands there.  (pictured below where you can actually see the crease; it is directly to either side of his testicles).

“Out of sight” spots like that usually don’t get much attention compared to the ‘obvious’ places and that makes them the real target. You can see the difference in color there as well. It appears discolored compared to other places in the area and that’s a definite flag to pay attention there.

There are many more and for similar reasons you use visual clues mentioned earlier to detect them. For a short list:  Mid to upper crest of the ear. Note the red color? A cool slow breath (as if silently whistling or cooling off a hot liquid) across there but then gently bite and exhale across the lobe warming it.  After that comes the roads less traveled like back of knee, inner thigh above knee but stopping mid-thigh.

These things are like untangling a mass of strings: you start with the piece you can readily work with and go from there. He loves his butt, share that appreciation with him and then show him just how little he’s experienced of what his body can do.

Part Two: Control Points.

Control points are a similar idea to the erogenous zone manipulation described above; they are places you can use minimal pressure to assert dominance and maintain the appearance of control enhancing his sensation of ‘submission’ and the release that brings.

The thing about control and submission is that what you (as a dom) need to do most is to use a boys instinct against himself, so that he goes further into the ‘headspace’ of submission. By making his body ‘revolt’ against his control you help strip that illusion from him so he can truly get the release he needs.To do this you play on the basic instinct that pleasure is something you wish to prolong and increase.

It’s base instinct to want to remain where you feel good, and there are somethings you can do that feel VERY good to someone else but by slowly easing away you force them to move back to meet your touch once more. Through practice and close attention you won’t need to move much at all to demonstrate the control I’m talking about here.

In the case of places like this on the body the image gives me a few to work with. If my memory serves, this and the original also expose those same places. Pushing down on the small of his back, a moderate grip on the nape of his neck, pinning his hands to either of those two places, these are a basic idea of what I’m talking about here.

Taking it further with a finger tip in the right place, with the right pressure, you don’t need to use your hands to keep a boy prone and no I don’t mean on his boybutton. That’s too easy. Control, to be effective, can’t be common or easily shaken off like that can be. I mean very specific places that can literally control a boy’s physical motions. Those are more ‘hardcore’ and uncomfortable in general but a bit of discomfort can ground a boy and keep him from drifting too far away without being guided there.

I think of them like anchors or tethers, they keep him close to home while things are going on. The trick with some is in how you use them. The backs of his knees for example. If he’s to ‘stay with his hands on the wall’ then stepping in behind him and knocking them up slightly so he has to sit back onto your legs can cause that momentary feeling of falling that’s immediately replaced by being caught and safe again. Done right, there is no risk of falling but it is that instinct that we’re playing with here.

The most obvious control points I touched on earlier in this section: the wrists (overlapped and placed on either the small of the back, or over the nape of his neck for double control effect) and when you combine that with one of the other two spots (being the same nape or back spot) while pressing the wrist into the other a boy gets a sense of being completely under control.

To illustrate the combination:
His hands are brought together in the small of his back. My right hand firmly holds them in place. My knees snake in behind his and by lifting upward with my feet I destabilize him making him stagger or hop slightly which is when I step in and ensure he goes no where but back onto my legs and against my chest. With my  left hand hand I press his neck into the wall as I gently lean foward and slide a quick cooling breath down his ear before I bite the lobe and growl. 

I think you get the idea.

A boy’s body is both map and guidebook to a trained eye. There are so many ways a body betrays you that there are numerous books written about it. I however am not interested in ‘lie detection’ or playing poker. The only game that happens with me is that I can hear your body talking and we are both conspiring to get rid of that pesky fear of losing control. You don’t have to worry about that when dealing with a Daddy, but especially not with me. I’m going to break you and your body is going to tell me how. 

Edit: found the original they were talking about.

I've included this for clarity on the original points discussed.